Newhaverin Leith and life


Me as agony aunt?

My friend David and I have a regular lunch date and, as I think we're well adjusted and intelligent people, I thought our time together could benefit others. I put a shout out to friends on Facebook to gather problems I could tackle as a hack agony aunt (with David being the angony uncle.) Here are the problems and what we had to say:

I would dearly love to wear some pretty little pump-like shoes, but every time I try I get blisters all over my feet! Everyone else seems to manage fine. Have i got freaky feet or does everyone else suffer in silence?

My take on the situation was pretty radical- why should a woman feel she needs to wear pretty pump-like shoes, especially if they give her blisters? Does society pressure women so much that they consider wearing pumps despite pain? If the shoes hurt, honey, get some flats. David took a different angle saying that most women wearing flats are indeed in pain and have blisters- they're just hiding it. If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen.

I recently received clothes vouchers for my 40th but I am still breastfeeding and have a bit of mummy tummy going on. What can I wear that is easy access but hides the mid section. I spend my life in black.

As a single man with no children and a woman who has chosen to not have children this posed a small challenge but David came through with pointing out the benefits of an empire waisted summer dress. I recommend any one of the number of Spanx tummy taming products. I know from experience they are amazing. A bit of work but amazing. I also thought that it's kind of lame that ladies with post-partum bellies can't just get their bellies out or wear a brightly coloured shirt without feeling funny about it. So, post-partum friend, get that belly out! Start a trend!

I seem to be suffering from unfathomable rage: every time I see David Cameron's face on the TV I want to hurl a brick through the screen. HELP!

We had a long discussion about this issue. Both of us agreed that if you have a reaction like this to someone on TV you should turn off the TV. If, however, you think you should keep watching then you should examine your extreme reaction and relate it to a reaction you would have in real life. Would you throw bricks at someone at work or on the street? No? Then you're irrational. The other approach is to embrace what David Cameron has to say because it's the viewpoint of your enemy. Understanding your enemy is the key to strengthening your own argument.

What is the meaning of life?

This isn't a question that can be answered. As David said, it's like asking what the meaning of a table or chair is. What is the meaning of your life or a good life? Is that a better question?

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  1. I have a question for agony aunt.

    I work in a corporate environment where have a corporate vision and values is a cornerstone to reputation, corporate culture and setting employees’ expectations. I really like these things, but I am frequently annoyed by the non-compliance by the very people who espouse (sp?) to support the values of our company. They don’t “walk the talk”.

    I am just being naive to expect people to do what they say they are going to do?


  2. That’s a tough one, Ellen. I think if you are a genuine person with genuine interests in the organisation you work for it will be hard to understand people working with you who maybe have ulterior motives for being with the organisation. Or maybe they really don’t know what the hell they’re doing and just find it easy to repeat things and not employ the actions to back up what they’re saying. Whatever they’re up to I would suggest keeping your distance if you can help it. You don’t want to be tarred with the same brush if they get pulled up for misrepresenting the organisation.

    • I appreciate the thoughts and advise. I particularly like the phrase, “don’t want to be tarred with the same brush”!

      Excellent advise. Thank you!

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